Bob's Corner

It’s a raw, gloomy, rainy sort of day.  The ground is sopping and dotted with puddles, the sky is heavy laden with dark, ominous clouds, and the moisture filled air feels weighty in my lungs.  An icy wind this morning has blown most of the crispy brown leaves off of the trees, a reminder that the darkness and bitter cold of winter is not far off.  It seems a good backdrop for a spooky movie. Going with the rather eerie theme of the day, I’ve got a question.

What haunts you?

At first blush you may think this an odd question, but you know exactly what I mean.  What is so impressed upon your mind that you find it necessary to relive the situation over, and over, and over again?  What haunts you?

We often have difficulty letting go of certain types of thoughts, and they tend to fall into one of two categories; either it was something that happened to you, or it was something that you did.  Either way, you are struggling to understand and make some sense of it.  So you spend way too much time on the disturbing thoughts hamster wheel, chasing after old issues and searching for a balm to ease your troubled mind.  Sadly, I’ve seen people wrestle, suffer and struggle with the same thoughts for many, many years before they come to the realization that you cannot change the past.

That moment of time is done.  You can only live from here forward.  Isn’t it time to get healthier, and be selective about what you give your attention to?  You do understand that contrary to how it feels, those thoughts aren’t tattooed on your mind, right?

Perhaps it’s time for a personal inventory, a kind of a check-up from the neck-up, with the purpose of identifying and getting rid of anything toxic; old grudges, long lingering self-doubt, and damage from negative relationships.  How do you do this?

Bob Payne


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Volume 10, Issue 1, Posted 4:48 PM, 05.10.2018