You will invariably experience the ebb and flow of life. Good and bad times will come and go. Neither is permanent. Expect change.
This applies to everything, even relationships.
I know that there are people in your life who you can’t imagine living without. That being said, you have family, good friends and people close to you right now who simply may not be a part of your life at this time next year. I’m not talking about death. I’m am talking about changing relationships.
The change can happen for many different reasons including; an argument or a difference of opinion, the intentional choice to follow different paths, or because they have done something to seriously hurt you and you only want to invest yourself into healthy relationships. Sometimes, you may not even know why.
I have learned that the relationships in life that matter most are the ones with people who want to be with you. That choice is what makes all the difference. Having a person who wants to be with you, who is willing to travel the road with you regardless of what life throws at you – that, has tremendous value.
Conversely, if you being absent from someone’s life doesn’t matter to them, you must seriously consider that your presence didn’t matter much either. If that’s true, don’t chase after them. I know it hurts to realize that you are not as important to someone as you thought, but in the end you do learn who is there for you, who isn’t, and who you can truly count on.
The bottom line - honor the people that are in your life. Generously give them your attention. No, they aren’t perfect. No one is. But, if they are willing to accept you as you are, perhaps you should do the same. See the beauty in those who choose to journey with you, and do not take them for granted.
In a world of change, appreciate what you have when you have it.
Bob Payne, Manager